Betrayal & Loyalty You cannot be betrayed, for you do not own another. But the arrogance of another can be perceived as betrayal. With attachments, you create vulnerabilities. You are attached to those you love, to your family, to your friends. But each person is empowered to act independently, as they see fit. The actions of another are not rigtly within your direct control. You may see the actions of another as wrong or selfish or hurtful or evil. They may mean you ill or intend you well. It doesn't matter. The only certainty is that your belief in the concept of betrayal will leave you extremely vulnerable and will routinely spark predictable, frequent and destructive fits of anger. Loyalty, on the other hand, is the universal trait of consideration. Loyalty is a decision to affect one's actions based on the value you hold for another. Loyalty is almost always rewarded, but, like humility, is a hurtful trait when exercised to extremes.

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Lilac's Book. A book for my daughter.    By Bill Orton. Lilac's Book has been on     continuously since January 3, 1997. Anyone may have a FREE copy of the entire text of Lilac's Book by going to the Download page. Back in 1994, I wrote this book, largely in random order, as a gift for my infant daughter.   When I finished the first version of the book, I made photocopies and handed them out to anyone who was interested.   In 1996, I converted the text of the book into web format and thanks to the gracious and steadfast support from this mighty site, the book has been on Hippyland continuously since January 3, 1997.   As far as I can tell from webstats over the past few years, about 3000 people a year are visiting the page to download the full text of the book.   If just a portion of these visitors are downloading the text, then this free book is now in the hands of thousands of people.   This makes me feel that the gift is not just for Lilac, but for thousands of others, most especially for the teenagers and young adults who so often write to me trying to figure out their place in our world. BEING FREE  |  Table of Contents  |  Readers Comments  |  Download Lilac's Book  |  Return to HIPPYLAND  |  Photo Album Who IS a Hippy  |  The Price of Freedom  |  Following Your Own Heart  |  It Wasn't All Beauty & Lightness  |  Contact Me The original print edition of Lilac's Book © 1994; web editions © 1997, 1998, 1999, 2000, 2001.